At the time of the prophet, muslims men and women were never too shy to ask the prophet about all affairs, including such private affairs as sexual life, so as to know the teachings and rulings of their religion concerning them. As Aisha, the wife of the prophet testified, "Blessed are the women of the Ansar (the citizens of Madina). Shyness did not stand in their way seeking knowledge about their religion." (All except Termizi).
The way the ladies asked the prophet-directly or through his wives is a proof that sexual matters were not taboo but were fully acknowldged and respected. "Shyness is part of the faith" as the prophet taught, but he also taught "There is no shyness in matters of religion" even entailing the delicate aspects of sexual life.
It is our firm belief that facts about sex should be taught to children in a way commensurate with their age as they grow up both by the family and the school. We emphasize that this should be done within the total context of Islamic ideology and Islamic teaching, so that the youth-beside getting the correct physiologic knowledge become fully aware on the sanctity of the sexual relation in Islam and the grave sin of blemishing such sanctity whether under Islamic law, or far more important in the sight of God. Provided the Islamic conscience is developed we see no reason to shun sex education (unfortunately the rule in many muslim countries), and we believe it is better to give the correct teaching rather than leave this to chance and to incorrect sources and to the concomitant feeling of guilt by the hush-hush atmosphere in which this is done.
Teaching about sex should also have its presence in the curricula of medical schools. We have done this in our medical school as part of the gynaecology and obstetrics program. We had no difficulty whatsoever with our religious and rather conservative men and women students, for the subject is given within an Islamic perspective.
Sex is an important area of marital life, and when people are in trouble they have only the doctor to resort to: and unless the doctor has had some basic teaching of sex, he or she will be quite helpless to help out. Sexual problems may manifest as strained family relations, psychosomatic symptoms or infertility. Medical treatment may affect sex such as some antihypertensive or antidepressant drugs. Sexual counsel is often a neglected aspect of managing such varied diseases as coronary thrombosis, diabetes, incipient heart failure etc. The role of lack of sexual education in some cases of infertility is well known. Surgery may influence sex in men and women. A carelessly repaired episiotomy, or colporrhaphy may have a devastating effect on marital happinnes. The psychological premath and after-math of the operation of hysterectomy is only too well known. On top of all of this, muslim women patients would wish to know the religious ruling on the multitude of gynaecological and obstetric situations relating to worship, and their reference is their doctor. It is therefore a religious, dictate that medical education preparing doctors who will cater for the needs of muslim communities, should equip them with the knowledge necessary to answer this need.
Jun 24, 2008
Jun 16, 2008
How To Make People Like You In 90 Seconds Or Less
Review:::
In the world of networking, schmoozing, or even asking someone out on a date, first impressions can still make or break you. That's where How to Make People Like You in 90 Seconds or Less comes in.
This small, easy-to-read book gives you the basics for meeting and greeting with confidence. Author Nicholas Boothman, a former fashion and advertising photographer turned master neuro-linguistic programmer, aims his advice at establishing rapport -- that sometimes awkward stage between meeting and communicating.
It seems obvious that people are naturally drawn to others like themselves, so the key in establishing rapport is to learn how to become like them. Each person you meet is like a puzzle, and without being overtly obvious, the goal is to align your behavior with his or hers. Focusing on this concept of synchrony, Boothman's has developed a four-part plan for establishing rapport. First, start with a positive attitude; next, naturally mirror the other person's attitude, body language, and voice; ask the right type of questions to get the conversation going; then read the other person's sensory preferences (sight, sound, or touch) and adjust accordingly. It may not sound simple, but more than likely you're already doing most of this and don't realize it. If not, Boothman provides easy practice exercises to get you in the habit of synchronizing naturally. Whether it's business, social, or personal, 90 Seconds will soon have you on your way to becoming a rapport-creating pro.
Download link:
http://rapidshare.com/files/10081398...ds_Or_Less.zip
Why Wedding Ring on 4th Finger?
There is a beautiful and convincing explanation given, though many Legends existed...
* Thumb represents your Parents
* Second (Index) finger represents your Siblings
* Middle finger represents your-Self
* Fourth (Ring) finger represents your Life Partner
* and the Last (Little) finger represents your children
Firstly, open your palms (face to face), bend the middle fingers and hold them together - back to back. Secondly, open and hold the remaining three fingers and the thumb - tip to tip (as shown in the pic above).
Now, try to separate your thumbs (representing the parents)..., they will open, because your parents are not destined to live with you lifelong, and have to leave you sooner or later.
Please join your thumbs as before and separate your Index fingers (representing siblings)... ., they will also open, because your brothers and sisters will have their own families and will have to lead their own separate lives.
Now join the Index fingers and separate your Little fingers (representing your children)... ., they will open too, because the children also will get married and settle down on their own some day.
Finally, join your Little fingers, and try to separate your Ring fingers (representing your spouse). You will be surprised to see that you just CANNOT....., because Husband & Wife have to remain together all their lives - through thick and thin!!
P.S. Please try this out......... .... ISN'T THIS A LOVELY THEORY?
* Thumb represents your Parents
* Second (Index) finger represents your Siblings
* Middle finger represents your-Self
* Fourth (Ring) finger represents your Life Partner
* and the Last (Little) finger represents your children
Firstly, open your palms (face to face), bend the middle fingers and hold them together - back to back. Secondly, open and hold the remaining three fingers and the thumb - tip to tip (as shown in the pic above).
Now, try to separate your thumbs (representing the parents)..., they will open, because your parents are not destined to live with you lifelong, and have to leave you sooner or later.
Please join your thumbs as before and separate your Index fingers (representing siblings)... ., they will also open, because your brothers and sisters will have their own families and will have to lead their own separate lives.
Now join the Index fingers and separate your Little fingers (representing your children)... ., they will open too, because the children also will get married and settle down on their own some day.
Finally, join your Little fingers, and try to separate your Ring fingers (representing your spouse). You will be surprised to see that you just CANNOT....., because Husband & Wife have to remain together all their lives - through thick and thin!!
P.S. Please try this out......... .... ISN'T THIS A LOVELY THEORY?
How To Get More Comfortable Talking To Strange Girls
This dialogs r not from me.....
How To Get More Comfortable Talking To Strange Girls
In other places on this site I mention that trying to get girls by approaching strangers isn't always the most efficient way to go. But I do think it's a valuable skill overall, and lots of guys want to know how to do it, so here's my take:
Talking to strange women is so hard because it's totally scary and uncomfortable, but also completely optional and avoidable. That makes it very easy to wimp out at the last moment as you get closer and closer to making the approach and your anxiety raises to intolerable levels. There's a definite 'barrier' that you have to push through to finally make the move.
Let me say that I don't believe you can ever cure your fear of women once and for all. I think the best you can do is get comfortable with it to the point where the fear is greatly muted, or reduced enough to easily push through. Guys who aren't nervous around women tend to naturally be like that or they've macked on chicks so much the jitters have been pushed far into the background. It's like exercise though. If you slack off the nerves will come back and you have to get used to them again, though more easily than before.
I also don't believe you can eliminate the nerves that come with talking to women by just adjusting your attitude or looking at the situation in a different way. There's no magic realization out there that will make you confident overnight. If there was you'd have known it by the time you were fourteen and this article wouldn't exist. Anxiety isn't rational and can't be thought away. You have to actually force yourself to approach women enough times that you get used to it. You may 'know' that rejection is harmless, but you can't just read that not to be afraid. You have to experience it yourself and feel that it doesn't hurt you. The advice below comes from this perspective.
There's a ton of other advice out there on how to get used to approaching women. Here's the plan I came up with back in the day and which worked for me:
Plan
For the next month or so try to talk to a few girls every day.
That's pretty vague and unhelpful so we'll make it a bit more systematic:
The first thing we'll do is add in a reward/motivational system of sorts to push you out the door. What you have to do is pick some sort of activity that you like doing every day. If you don't talk to any girls that day you don't get to do the activity. Some examples would be:
* Using the computer
* Playing on the Internet
* Playing a specific game
* Playing with yourself
* Watching T.V.
If you pick the right thing, it will exert a surprising amount of control. You'll be glad to get the talking with girls thing over with so you can get your 'reward'. This is a key to my advice. The 'reward' helps force you to get out there when you otherwise wouldn't.
The second thing to do is start with the easiest stuff and work your way up. For many guys straight-up approaching a strange girl is too difficult to do right off the bat, but if they build up to it over a week or two it's possible. Set yourself some realistic goals each day, then gradually increase their difficulty as you get more comfortable.
The last thing you have going for you is momentum. By talking to girls every day you get more used to it and can build on your gains. If you only tried to chat up girls one day of the week you'd get 'out of shape' and start from scratch the next week.
Will doing this 'cure' you? Nah, but if you've never been able to get up the nerve to approach a cute chick you'd like to talk to this is a good framework from which to do it. Worked for me.
Work out the personalized details of the 'plan' yourself and do it for about a month or so and you'll be in good shape. No reason to keep going after that. Life should be a bit different afterwards.
Example Progression
Here's a possible list of Least Scary to Most Scary scenarios. You should figure one out that works for you. The earlier items on this list don't even involve women you're interested in. Often the problem isn't just that you're uncomfortable with approaching strange women, but strangers in general.
* Ask a nice old lady for the time or a quick innocuous question (i.e., for directions)
* Ask a middle aged women for the time or a question
* Try to have a quick chat with a much older woman
* Ask a woman who's a bit older than you for the time or a question
* Ask a non-intimidating woman your age for the time or a question
* Ask a half-decent looking woman for the time or or a question
* Ask an attractive woman for the time or a question
* Go into a store and chat to a non-intimidating clerk
* Go into a store and chat to a good-looking clerk
* Ask a guy a quick question in a bar (try talking to guys in bars before talking to women)
* Try to have a conversation with a guy in a bar
* Go up to a non-intimidating girl in a bar and ask a quick question that could lead to a conversation but just as easily would allow you to leave after getting an answer ("What's that you're drinking?")
* Go up to a decent looking girl in a bar and ask a quick question
* Go up to a hot chick in a bar and ask a quick question
* Make a quick friendly/witty comment to a non-intimidating girl then leave after if you want
* Make a quick friendly/witty comment to a decent looking girl then leave after if you want
* Make a quick friendly/witty comment to an attractive girl then leave after if you want
* Try to have a quick conversation with non-intimidating girl
* Try to have a quick chat to a decent looking girl
* Try to have a quick chat with a good looking girl
You'll notice that the earlier scenarios involve having a pretext or talking to people who have to talk with you. You may be able to do these these fairly easily. Things get noticeably harder when you have to straight-up go up a strange girl and try to talk to her. Even with the factors in place to make this easier, it will take some willpower.
Some more points about the plan, or sometimes just approaching chicks in general
This is not about picking up chicks
* All I'm outlining is a systematic way to get over your discomfort and nerves when talking to girls.
* Don't worry about the rest of your 'game' for now.
* Don't worry about getting rejected. As long as you pushed through the 'barrier' and managed to talk to the girl it doesn't matter how she reacts.
* However, towards the end of the month, you could very well end up chatting to a chick that you hit it off with. This is particularly likely if you're already pretty attractive to girls and just had a problem with approaching them.
Expect to puss out at times
* Don't beat yourself up if you puss out, expect it and plan ahead to account for it.
* One thing is to give yourself lots of time to get over your nerves. For example if you go out to a bar with the intention of chatting to a few girls that night, you may feel nervous at first. But if you give yourself half an hour to calm down, you may finally be able to work up the nerve to approach someone.
* If you do puss out, don't get down on yourself or rationalize it away ("Oh, those chicks weren't hot enough to talk to...yeah...that's it"). Just acknowledge it and do better next time.
* Structure the situation so it forces your hand. The whole daily reward structure helps here. You can also do other things. You could tell yourself that you only have fifteen minutes to talk to a girl that day or you automatically fail and miss out on your reward. Or talk so much shit to your buddies about how you're going to mack on girls that night that you have to go through with it.
* If you feel stuck at a certain point in the progression (e.g., it's easy enough to chat to a store employee, but you can't bring yourself to go up a girl in a bar) see if you can't break it down into further sub-scenarios and then work through those.
Do whatever you can to make things easier for yourself
* Although this will be difficult at times, the idea is not to be masochistic. If there are any short cuts you can take that will make it easier for you to approach women and fulfill your daily goals, you should take them.
* If you go out to a bar, go with a friend if you can. It's easier than going out alone.
* If a few drinks will give you some courage then have them. Plenty of guys who get laid owe some part of their success to getting loaded first. This isn't guaranteed to give you balls though. Go to any bar and you'll see scores of guys standing around having 'one more drink' in the hopes that they'll finally get buzzed enough to be able to talk to girls. What often happens is they just end up drinking themselves into a sloppy oblivion.
* Feel free to loosen your criteria for what certain things mean. Define things like 'chat to a decent looking girl' in such a way that you can do it.
* Talking to other people in the day will get you in a more sociable frame of mind and make it easier for you to eventually talk to chicks.
* If you have a much easier time talking to girls in some situations (e.g., parties) rather than others (e.g., grocery store), then talk to all of them in the easier situation. However, you may want to try making a few approaches in the scarier situation if learning to do so is important for you.
Talking to strange women isn't as inappropriate as it can feel at first
If you've never interacted with someone in a certain way before, you may have a strong feeling that to do so would be completely inappropriate and offensive.
Ignore these thoughts. People approach women in bars all the time. People strike up conversations with people they don't know all the time as well. Some things are more rare than others (trying to meet women at a bookstore is less common than doing so at a bar), but they're still within the realm of possibility.
Be as physically and socially presentable as you can
If you currently have poor grooming, or come off as really socially awkward or creepy you should put off this exercise until you get those things handled.
You shouldn't be thinking too much about meeting women if you don't have the bare bones social basics handled. Meeting a woman is really just socially interacting with another person up to a certain standard. If you can't meet that standard you should poke around the rest of this site first.
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How To Get More Comfortable Talking To Strange Girls
In other places on this site I mention that trying to get girls by approaching strangers isn't always the most efficient way to go. But I do think it's a valuable skill overall, and lots of guys want to know how to do it, so here's my take:
Talking to strange women is so hard because it's totally scary and uncomfortable, but also completely optional and avoidable. That makes it very easy to wimp out at the last moment as you get closer and closer to making the approach and your anxiety raises to intolerable levels. There's a definite 'barrier' that you have to push through to finally make the move.
Let me say that I don't believe you can ever cure your fear of women once and for all. I think the best you can do is get comfortable with it to the point where the fear is greatly muted, or reduced enough to easily push through. Guys who aren't nervous around women tend to naturally be like that or they've macked on chicks so much the jitters have been pushed far into the background. It's like exercise though. If you slack off the nerves will come back and you have to get used to them again, though more easily than before.
I also don't believe you can eliminate the nerves that come with talking to women by just adjusting your attitude or looking at the situation in a different way. There's no magic realization out there that will make you confident overnight. If there was you'd have known it by the time you were fourteen and this article wouldn't exist. Anxiety isn't rational and can't be thought away. You have to actually force yourself to approach women enough times that you get used to it. You may 'know' that rejection is harmless, but you can't just read that not to be afraid. You have to experience it yourself and feel that it doesn't hurt you. The advice below comes from this perspective.
There's a ton of other advice out there on how to get used to approaching women. Here's the plan I came up with back in the day and which worked for me:
Plan
For the next month or so try to talk to a few girls every day.
That's pretty vague and unhelpful so we'll make it a bit more systematic:
The first thing we'll do is add in a reward/motivational system of sorts to push you out the door. What you have to do is pick some sort of activity that you like doing every day. If you don't talk to any girls that day you don't get to do the activity. Some examples would be:
* Using the computer
* Playing on the Internet
* Playing a specific game
* Playing with yourself
* Watching T.V.
If you pick the right thing, it will exert a surprising amount of control. You'll be glad to get the talking with girls thing over with so you can get your 'reward'. This is a key to my advice. The 'reward' helps force you to get out there when you otherwise wouldn't.
The second thing to do is start with the easiest stuff and work your way up. For many guys straight-up approaching a strange girl is too difficult to do right off the bat, but if they build up to it over a week or two it's possible. Set yourself some realistic goals each day, then gradually increase their difficulty as you get more comfortable.
The last thing you have going for you is momentum. By talking to girls every day you get more used to it and can build on your gains. If you only tried to chat up girls one day of the week you'd get 'out of shape' and start from scratch the next week.
Will doing this 'cure' you? Nah, but if you've never been able to get up the nerve to approach a cute chick you'd like to talk to this is a good framework from which to do it. Worked for me.
Work out the personalized details of the 'plan' yourself and do it for about a month or so and you'll be in good shape. No reason to keep going after that. Life should be a bit different afterwards.
Example Progression
Here's a possible list of Least Scary to Most Scary scenarios. You should figure one out that works for you. The earlier items on this list don't even involve women you're interested in. Often the problem isn't just that you're uncomfortable with approaching strange women, but strangers in general.
* Ask a nice old lady for the time or a quick innocuous question (i.e., for directions)
* Ask a middle aged women for the time or a question
* Try to have a quick chat with a much older woman
* Ask a woman who's a bit older than you for the time or a question
* Ask a non-intimidating woman your age for the time or a question
* Ask a half-decent looking woman for the time or or a question
* Ask an attractive woman for the time or a question
* Go into a store and chat to a non-intimidating clerk
* Go into a store and chat to a good-looking clerk
* Ask a guy a quick question in a bar (try talking to guys in bars before talking to women)
* Try to have a conversation with a guy in a bar
* Go up to a non-intimidating girl in a bar and ask a quick question that could lead to a conversation but just as easily would allow you to leave after getting an answer ("What's that you're drinking?")
* Go up to a decent looking girl in a bar and ask a quick question
* Go up to a hot chick in a bar and ask a quick question
* Make a quick friendly/witty comment to a non-intimidating girl then leave after if you want
* Make a quick friendly/witty comment to a decent looking girl then leave after if you want
* Make a quick friendly/witty comment to an attractive girl then leave after if you want
* Try to have a quick conversation with non-intimidating girl
* Try to have a quick chat to a decent looking girl
* Try to have a quick chat with a good looking girl
You'll notice that the earlier scenarios involve having a pretext or talking to people who have to talk with you. You may be able to do these these fairly easily. Things get noticeably harder when you have to straight-up go up a strange girl and try to talk to her. Even with the factors in place to make this easier, it will take some willpower.
Some more points about the plan, or sometimes just approaching chicks in general
This is not about picking up chicks
* All I'm outlining is a systematic way to get over your discomfort and nerves when talking to girls.
* Don't worry about the rest of your 'game' for now.
* Don't worry about getting rejected. As long as you pushed through the 'barrier' and managed to talk to the girl it doesn't matter how she reacts.
* However, towards the end of the month, you could very well end up chatting to a chick that you hit it off with. This is particularly likely if you're already pretty attractive to girls and just had a problem with approaching them.
Expect to puss out at times
* Don't beat yourself up if you puss out, expect it and plan ahead to account for it.
* One thing is to give yourself lots of time to get over your nerves. For example if you go out to a bar with the intention of chatting to a few girls that night, you may feel nervous at first. But if you give yourself half an hour to calm down, you may finally be able to work up the nerve to approach someone.
* If you do puss out, don't get down on yourself or rationalize it away ("Oh, those chicks weren't hot enough to talk to...yeah...that's it"). Just acknowledge it and do better next time.
* Structure the situation so it forces your hand. The whole daily reward structure helps here. You can also do other things. You could tell yourself that you only have fifteen minutes to talk to a girl that day or you automatically fail and miss out on your reward. Or talk so much shit to your buddies about how you're going to mack on girls that night that you have to go through with it.
* If you feel stuck at a certain point in the progression (e.g., it's easy enough to chat to a store employee, but you can't bring yourself to go up a girl in a bar) see if you can't break it down into further sub-scenarios and then work through those.
Do whatever you can to make things easier for yourself
* Although this will be difficult at times, the idea is not to be masochistic. If there are any short cuts you can take that will make it easier for you to approach women and fulfill your daily goals, you should take them.
* If you go out to a bar, go with a friend if you can. It's easier than going out alone.
* If a few drinks will give you some courage then have them. Plenty of guys who get laid owe some part of their success to getting loaded first. This isn't guaranteed to give you balls though. Go to any bar and you'll see scores of guys standing around having 'one more drink' in the hopes that they'll finally get buzzed enough to be able to talk to girls. What often happens is they just end up drinking themselves into a sloppy oblivion.
* Feel free to loosen your criteria for what certain things mean. Define things like 'chat to a decent looking girl' in such a way that you can do it.
* Talking to other people in the day will get you in a more sociable frame of mind and make it easier for you to eventually talk to chicks.
* If you have a much easier time talking to girls in some situations (e.g., parties) rather than others (e.g., grocery store), then talk to all of them in the easier situation. However, you may want to try making a few approaches in the scarier situation if learning to do so is important for you.
Talking to strange women isn't as inappropriate as it can feel at first
If you've never interacted with someone in a certain way before, you may have a strong feeling that to do so would be completely inappropriate and offensive.
Ignore these thoughts. People approach women in bars all the time. People strike up conversations with people they don't know all the time as well. Some things are more rare than others (trying to meet women at a bookstore is less common than doing so at a bar), but they're still within the realm of possibility.
Be as physically and socially presentable as you can
If you currently have poor grooming, or come off as really socially awkward or creepy you should put off this exercise until you get those things handled.
You shouldn't be thinking too much about meeting women if you don't have the bare bones social basics handled. Meeting a woman is really just socially interacting with another person up to a certain standard. If you can't meet that standard you should poke around the rest of this site first.
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How Good of a Friend Are You?
When we think about our friends and why we like being with them, what often comes to mind is “we have fun together” or “we have so much in common.” Basic characteristics that most of us admire in our friends go far deeper. Then, how would you describe your best friend? Would you say she is “generous,” “dependable” “loyal,” “honest,” “caring”? Which of them is most important and which ones can you overlook? More importantly, how do you measure up as a friend? Most of us would like to think that those words aptly describe us but being very honest with yourself, are you sure?
Honesty
How many of us haven’t told a “little white lie,” especially when it’s meant to avoid hurting someone? However, if you get caught in the lie, no matter how trivial it might seem to you, you have left a doubt in your friend’s mind and she might not believe everything you say in the future. We can avoid telling lies without being brutally honest? Next time you’re faced with such a situation, tell yourself that you will tell the truth and then figure out a nice way to word it.
Loyalty
This means standing by your friend even when you have to disagree with others. Having the courage to defend a friend at the risk of alienating yourself from the group, is an admirable quality but if you consider yourself a friend, it is your duty.
Generosity
Most people think it means “with money” but you can be generous with your time and actions. Sharing what you have, doesn’t go unnoticed. There are hundreds of little ways to show generosity. Plant a few herbs in a pretty pot and give it to someone who loves to cook. Offer to run an errand for a busy friend. Pick up junk mail from the doorstep of a vacationing friend. There are opportunities everywhere; you only need to look.
Dependability
We’ve all had the experience of a friend promising to do something and she doesn’t follow through. We are disappointed and if it’s important, angry. Although you might have good intentions, it’s easy for any of us to forget. If you’re not able to write yourself a note at the time, ask your friend to phone or e-mail you to remind you. Finally, don’t promise anything you can’t or don’t intend to deliver.
Integrity
This goes hand in hand with honesty. If you always conduct yourself in a way that you know is right, you have integrity. From time to time, life presents us with situations that test us. Don’t be tempted to go along with something, if your gut tells you it’s wrong.
Life without friends can be lonely and being someone’s friend is a choice. It is up to us to nurture our friendships or they’ll surely fall by the wayside.
Honesty
How many of us haven’t told a “little white lie,” especially when it’s meant to avoid hurting someone? However, if you get caught in the lie, no matter how trivial it might seem to you, you have left a doubt in your friend’s mind and she might not believe everything you say in the future. We can avoid telling lies without being brutally honest? Next time you’re faced with such a situation, tell yourself that you will tell the truth and then figure out a nice way to word it.
Loyalty
This means standing by your friend even when you have to disagree with others. Having the courage to defend a friend at the risk of alienating yourself from the group, is an admirable quality but if you consider yourself a friend, it is your duty.
Generosity
Most people think it means “with money” but you can be generous with your time and actions. Sharing what you have, doesn’t go unnoticed. There are hundreds of little ways to show generosity. Plant a few herbs in a pretty pot and give it to someone who loves to cook. Offer to run an errand for a busy friend. Pick up junk mail from the doorstep of a vacationing friend. There are opportunities everywhere; you only need to look.
Dependability
We’ve all had the experience of a friend promising to do something and she doesn’t follow through. We are disappointed and if it’s important, angry. Although you might have good intentions, it’s easy for any of us to forget. If you’re not able to write yourself a note at the time, ask your friend to phone or e-mail you to remind you. Finally, don’t promise anything you can’t or don’t intend to deliver.
Integrity
This goes hand in hand with honesty. If you always conduct yourself in a way that you know is right, you have integrity. From time to time, life presents us with situations that test us. Don’t be tempted to go along with something, if your gut tells you it’s wrong.
Life without friends can be lonely and being someone’s friend is a choice. It is up to us to nurture our friendships or they’ll surely fall by the wayside.
16 Signs that you Love Someone
SIXTEEN:
When you're on the phone with them late at night and they hang up, you still miss them even when it was just two minutes ago.
FIFTEEN:
You read their Texts and Ims Over and over again.
FOURTEEN:
You walk really slow when you're with them.
THIRTEEN:
You feel shy whenever they're around.
ELEVEN:
When you think about them, your heart beats faster but slower at the same time.
TEN:
You smile when you hear their voice.
NINE:
When you look at them, you can't see the other people around you, you just see him/her.
EIGHT:
You start listening to slow songs while thinking about them.
SEVEN:
They're all you think about.
SIX:
You get high just from their scent.
FIVE:
You realize you're always smiling when you're looking at them.
FOUR:
You would do anything for them, just to see them.
THREE:
While reading this, there was one person on your mind this whole time.
TWO:
You were so busy thinking about that person, you didnt notice number twelve was missing
ONE:
You just scrolled up to check & are now silently laughing at yourself
When you're on the phone with them late at night and they hang up, you still miss them even when it was just two minutes ago.
FIFTEEN:
You read their Texts and Ims Over and over again.
FOURTEEN:
You walk really slow when you're with them.
THIRTEEN:
You feel shy whenever they're around.
ELEVEN:
When you think about them, your heart beats faster but slower at the same time.
TEN:
You smile when you hear their voice.
NINE:
When you look at them, you can't see the other people around you, you just see him/her.
EIGHT:
You start listening to slow songs while thinking about them.
SEVEN:
They're all you think about.
SIX:
You get high just from their scent.
FIVE:
You realize you're always smiling when you're looking at them.
FOUR:
You would do anything for them, just to see them.
THREE:
While reading this, there was one person on your mind this whole time.
TWO:
You were so busy thinking about that person, you didnt notice number twelve was missing
ONE:
You just scrolled up to check & are now silently laughing at yourself
Jun 11, 2008
What does Islam say about anal sex ?
Almighty Allah says in the Qur'an: "Your wives are a tilth for you, so go to your tilth (have sexual relations with your wives in any manner as long as it is in the vagina and not in the anus), when or how you will, and send (good deeds, or ask Allah to bestow upon you pious offspring) for your own selves beforehand. And fear Allah, and know that you are to meet Him (in the Hereafter), and give good tidings to the believers (O Muhammad)." (Al-Baqarah: 223)
In the foregoing verse the word harth (tilth) indicates that only vaginal sex is permissible in Islam, because it is from this place children are produced. The semen lodged in the womb from which offspring comes is likened to the seeds that are planted in the ground, bringing vegetation. Both of them are substances from which something else is produced.
All Muslim jurists agree that anal sex is haram (prohibited), based on the hadith of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him): "Do not have anal sex with women." (Reported by Ahmad, At-Tirmidhi, An-Nasa'i, and Ibn Majah.)
Khuzaymah Ibn Thabit (may Allah be pleased with him) also reported that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "Allah is not too shy to tell you the truth: Do not have sex with your wives in the anus." (Reported by Ahmad, 5/213.)
Ibn `Abbas (may Allah be pleased with him) narrated: "The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "Allah will not look at a man who has anal sex with his wife." (Reported by Ibn Abi Shaybah, 3/529, and At-Tirmidhi classified it as an authentic hadith, 1165)
Further, it is reported that the Prophet (peace and blessing be upon him) referred to such an act as "minor sodomy". (Reported by Ahmad and An-Nasa'i)
However, it is allowed to caress the wife and stimulate her around the anus, without having sex in this area. It is reported that `Umar Ibn Al-Khattab (ay Allah be pleased with him) came one day to the Prophet and said, "O Messenger of Allah, I am ruined!" "What has ruined you?" asked the Prophet. He replied, "Last night I turned my wife over," meaning that he had had vaginal intercourse with her from the back. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) did not say anything to him until the verse cited above was revealed. Then he told him, "[Make love with your wife] from the front or the back, but avoid the anus and intercourse during menstruation." (Reported by Ahmad and At-Tirmidhi)
If one does have anal sex with his wife, he has committed a grave sin, which requires repentance. He should regret and feel contrite for committing such a sin. Allah Almighty destroyed a whole nation who were accustomed to this evil habit.
But, the wife is not considered divorced as many people think, because there is no evidence to support this view. However, scholars maintain that if a man habitually does this or insists on having anal sex with his wife, she has the right to ask for a divorce, because he is considered an evildoer who is causing harm by his action, and also because the purpose of marriage cannot be achieved through this action.
The wife has to resist this evil action and refuse to respond to her husband's desire to have anal sex. She should remind him of Allah as well as the punishment of those who transgress the Bounds set by Him, Most High.
In the foregoing verse the word harth (tilth) indicates that only vaginal sex is permissible in Islam, because it is from this place children are produced. The semen lodged in the womb from which offspring comes is likened to the seeds that are planted in the ground, bringing vegetation. Both of them are substances from which something else is produced.
All Muslim jurists agree that anal sex is haram (prohibited), based on the hadith of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him): "Do not have anal sex with women." (Reported by Ahmad, At-Tirmidhi, An-Nasa'i, and Ibn Majah.)
Khuzaymah Ibn Thabit (may Allah be pleased with him) also reported that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "Allah is not too shy to tell you the truth: Do not have sex with your wives in the anus." (Reported by Ahmad, 5/213.)
Ibn `Abbas (may Allah be pleased with him) narrated: "The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "Allah will not look at a man who has anal sex with his wife." (Reported by Ibn Abi Shaybah, 3/529, and At-Tirmidhi classified it as an authentic hadith, 1165)
Further, it is reported that the Prophet (peace and blessing be upon him) referred to such an act as "minor sodomy". (Reported by Ahmad and An-Nasa'i)
However, it is allowed to caress the wife and stimulate her around the anus, without having sex in this area. It is reported that `Umar Ibn Al-Khattab (ay Allah be pleased with him) came one day to the Prophet and said, "O Messenger of Allah, I am ruined!" "What has ruined you?" asked the Prophet. He replied, "Last night I turned my wife over," meaning that he had had vaginal intercourse with her from the back. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) did not say anything to him until the verse cited above was revealed. Then he told him, "[Make love with your wife] from the front or the back, but avoid the anus and intercourse during menstruation." (Reported by Ahmad and At-Tirmidhi)
If one does have anal sex with his wife, he has committed a grave sin, which requires repentance. He should regret and feel contrite for committing such a sin. Allah Almighty destroyed a whole nation who were accustomed to this evil habit.
But, the wife is not considered divorced as many people think, because there is no evidence to support this view. However, scholars maintain that if a man habitually does this or insists on having anal sex with his wife, she has the right to ask for a divorce, because he is considered an evildoer who is causing harm by his action, and also because the purpose of marriage cannot be achieved through this action.
The wife has to resist this evil action and refuse to respond to her husband's desire to have anal sex. She should remind him of Allah as well as the punishment of those who transgress the Bounds set by Him, Most High.
Jun 10, 2008
A perfect boyfriend !!!!!
Every girl dreamed since they were a little girl is that one day she will find a guy that does these things for her. even the smallest action can have the BIGGEST impact in someones life.
• give her one of your t-shirts to sleep in.
• leave her cute text notes.
• kiss her in front of your friends.
• tell her she looks beautiful.
• look into her eyes when you talk to her.
• let her mess with your hair.
• touch her hair.
• just walk around with her.
• FORGIVE her for her MISTAKES.
• look at her like she's the only girl you see.
• tickle her even when she says stop.
• hold her hand when you're around your friends.
• when she starts swearing at you, tell her you love her.
• let her fall asleep in your arms.
• get her mad, then kiss her.
• stay on the phone with her even if shes not saying anything
• tease her and let her tease you back.
• stay up all night with her when she's sick.
• watch her favorite movie with her.
• give her the world.
• let her wear your clothes.
• when she's sad, hang out with her.
• let her know she's important.
• kiss her in the pouring rain.
• when you fall in love with her, tell her.
• and when you tell her, love her like you've never loved someone before.
guys repost as : i'd be this boyfriend.
girls repost as : a perfect boyfriend
if you don`t repost this in four minutes you will lose the one you love.
if you do repost this in four minutes the one you love will :
call you
kiss you
love you
text you
• give her one of your t-shirts to sleep in.
• leave her cute text notes.
• kiss her in front of your friends.
• tell her she looks beautiful.
• look into her eyes when you talk to her.
• let her mess with your hair.
• touch her hair.
• just walk around with her.
• FORGIVE her for her MISTAKES.
• look at her like she's the only girl you see.
• tickle her even when she says stop.
• hold her hand when you're around your friends.
• when she starts swearing at you, tell her you love her.
• let her fall asleep in your arms.
• get her mad, then kiss her.
• stay on the phone with her even if shes not saying anything
• tease her and let her tease you back.
• stay up all night with her when she's sick.
• watch her favorite movie with her.
• give her the world.
• let her wear your clothes.
• when she's sad, hang out with her.
• let her know she's important.
• kiss her in the pouring rain.
• when you fall in love with her, tell her.
• and when you tell her, love her like you've never loved someone before.
guys repost as : i'd be this boyfriend.
girls repost as : a perfect boyfriend
if you don`t repost this in four minutes you will lose the one you love.
if you do repost this in four minutes the one you love will :
call you
kiss you
love you
text you
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